Most people reading this blog post go to the gym to lift weights or play a sport. It won’t take you long to realize that you are limited by your genetics to do certain things at the gym or in your sport. You might be a kickass bodybuilder, but your biceps peak isn’t as good as you would want it to be. You might be a kickass football dribbler and shooter, but your lack of height doesn’t allow you to score off crosses. You might be a kickass basketball player, but your height restricts you a a point guard position. Whatever the disadvantage might be, I guarantee you that you have plenty of it. We all do.
This is just as true outside the gym. We all have different insecurities. Some of us don’t believe we can get rich because we have only seen poverty, others are bad with women because of certain social conditioning and now you can’t get a girlfriend or talk to one. Most of your insecurities were passed to you through bad experiences in your childhood, but that’s a topic for a different time. The goal is to be comfortable in your own skin inside and outside the gym, the rest is secondary.
Take me for example, I stand at a whooping height of 5’6. That is shorter than average in many parts of the world. I was always the shortest guy in my class ever since I remembered, so I was always picked on and had to stand up for myself. Still, I grew up with this nagging insecurity always in my mind, and this prevented me from manifesting my greatness in life and became a nagging issue that I had to deal with. Until I realized, there are two things in life: things you can control, and things you cannot control.
Thins that you cannot control about yourself should be accepted and embraced 100% by yourself, because you cannot do anything about them. It’s that simple, they are circumstances that are out of your control, and your best bet is to accept them, embrace them, and have a little fun with them. If you are tall and lanky and just cannot build a muscular physique, you might as well accept it, love it, joke about it, and find something that your physique is built for to go out there and dominate in like basketball or swimming. If you are short and bulky, you might as well accept it and find something that you can dominate in with the physique that God has given you like wrestling, bodybuilding, and football (soccer).
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is the key to supreme confidence and fearlessness. This means you have to confront yourself with all your fears and insecurities with brutal honesty, then do some inner work to accept yourself for who you are and express that acceptance to the world. Confidence isn’t determined by how much money, women, or cars you have. Some of the most insecure people in the world are also some of the richest people in the world. Some rich people are pretty damn confident. It all depends on your character from the inside and how you perceive your self. Always ask yourself this question: are you comfortable in your own skin?
Just remember. Things you cannot control should be accepted by you 100%. Things that you can control such as your character and skill in the gym or your sport should always be worked on and improved. If that’s all you can take out of this post, then you are onto something.